I just had more of an understanding click inside of myself
about ahimsa (non-violence). I watched
the movie Captain Richards. It’s a movie
depicting Captain Richard’s experience in having his cargo ship taken over by a
group of Somali pirates. The move left
me feeling very sad. Sad at what he
experienced, sad about what even led the Somalis into this situation and sad
about a world where military, weapons and fighting is deemed necessary and
normal. As we drove home from the movie,
my partner was talking about a friend who recently went hunting. I remarked how I just don’t understand the
need to kill an animal. He stated, “Well,
it will save him some money on his grocery bill.” Then it hit me. Even this act of killing another animal shows
ignorance into the meaning of ahimsa.
People often ask me why I’m vegetarian and I give them explanations of health
and the environment. But it goes beyond
that. It is not necessary for most
people in this world to kill an animal in order to get the nourishment we
need. It is not necessary to inflict
violence on another person to work through conflict. It is not necessary to beat ourselves up because
we aren’t perfect. The ignorance of what
we perceive as necessary to survive or to get our way or to be the best person
we can ends up inflicting violence upon others and ourselves. And I’m reminded that it comes back to
me. I can’t stop warlords, I can’t stop
someone from hunting…I can practice ahimsa and stop myself from living in this
ignorance. In this sadness and turmoil,
I feel closer to a sense of peace within myself. I feel my eyes are open a little further and
I feel a letting go of a little more of judgment. Gaining a deeper understanding that everyone
is in their own struggle with ignorance, including myself, lessens anger and
increases compassion within me that may have to potential to travel outside of
me into the world.
This blog is a place for me to reflect on daily self-discoveries and new found awareness on the yoga path. My hope is that through sharing my experiences, others will be helped in their own self-discoveries.
Saturday, 2 November 2013
Thursday, 24 January 2013
A reminder about expectations
As a mental health counselor, I encounter on a daily basis how expectations directly fuel our behaviors, emotions and thoughts. Personally, one of my biggest lessons about expectations came from an expectation of how I felt my father "should" act, which fueled YEARS of misery, anger and hurt...until I finally recognized that MY expectation was the problem, not him.
I had a wonderful encounter with a client's expectation of her body today. I have begun facilitating a pain management group and today I introduced some relaxation techniques, which the group then practiced. We reviewed abdominal breathing, practiced muscle relaxation and visual imagery. After the group, I spent time with a group member who had missed the last group. She was telling me that her mind is always racing and even sleep is stressful because of the nightmares that come every night. She told me, "I have been practicing taking deep breaths, then telling each body part to relax, but it just doesn't work!" I asked her, "What doesn't work?" She replied, "My headache is still there! Nothing works!" I spoke with her about her expectation of doing lots of things that "should" make her headache stop, which in turn is increasing the pain and stress...making things worse. I suggested not having an expectation. "When you are taking deep breaths, just observe what is happening, notice with curiosity. When you are creating tension and then relaxing a body part, notice the difference between the two states. Be an observer instead of judging the exercise as "bad" because your desire for your headache to stop." Her pause and contemplation of this was beautiful! "Yes..just not having a goal...just seeing what happens. Okay, I will try that."
It was such a wonderful reminder for myself that we spend so much time feeling like we have to accomplish things to be "successful," to be "good" and "valuable." We end up being so consumed with outcomes that we forget to be present in the process, to allow the outcome to be what it may be. "Letting go" can simply be shifting from trying to "control" and "do" an outcome, to watching with curiosity and being present to witness what may happen...and then smile because you had no idea that could be a possible outcome.
I had a wonderful encounter with a client's expectation of her body today. I have begun facilitating a pain management group and today I introduced some relaxation techniques, which the group then practiced. We reviewed abdominal breathing, practiced muscle relaxation and visual imagery. After the group, I spent time with a group member who had missed the last group. She was telling me that her mind is always racing and even sleep is stressful because of the nightmares that come every night. She told me, "I have been practicing taking deep breaths, then telling each body part to relax, but it just doesn't work!" I asked her, "What doesn't work?" She replied, "My headache is still there! Nothing works!" I spoke with her about her expectation of doing lots of things that "should" make her headache stop, which in turn is increasing the pain and stress...making things worse. I suggested not having an expectation. "When you are taking deep breaths, just observe what is happening, notice with curiosity. When you are creating tension and then relaxing a body part, notice the difference between the two states. Be an observer instead of judging the exercise as "bad" because your desire for your headache to stop." Her pause and contemplation of this was beautiful! "Yes..just not having a goal...just seeing what happens. Okay, I will try that."
It was such a wonderful reminder for myself that we spend so much time feeling like we have to accomplish things to be "successful," to be "good" and "valuable." We end up being so consumed with outcomes that we forget to be present in the process, to allow the outcome to be what it may be. "Letting go" can simply be shifting from trying to "control" and "do" an outcome, to watching with curiosity and being present to witness what may happen...and then smile because you had no idea that could be a possible outcome.
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